Shockingly, more and more teens are using the built-in cameras on their cell phones and iPads to take nude pictures. They then send these pictures of themselves to boyfriends, girlfriends, friends and other acquaintances. And when they do, this is called sexting.
Sexting has some serious consequences not only for the person taking and sending the photos, but also for the person on the receiving end. As a result, it is important for parents to talk with their kids about these consequences.
Not only should teens be made aware of the emotional consequences of sexting but the legal ramifications as well. For instance, most of the time sexting involves minors, so these nude photos are considered child pornography. As a result, sending or receiving these messages is a crime.
Many times, kids participate in sexting without thinking about the consequences. But in one impulsive move, they can alter their lives from that point forward. Here are some of the ways kids who sext suffer emotionally.
Experience embarrassment and humiliation. When a sexual or nude picture is sent to another person, there are no guarantees that this picture will remain private. And in many cases the pictures rarely do. Once a relationship breaks up, or a friend becomes angry, the pictures are often mass distributed as an act of revenge. As a result, the person in the pictures often experiences embarrassment and humiliation when the picture is distributed to others. For many kids, it can feel very much like they have walked down the halls of their school without any clothes.
Experience bullying. Once sext messages become public, this often opens teens up to bullying, especially cyberbullying. There are countless stories of young women who have participated in sexting and later have been bullied for it. Jessica Logan and Amanda Todd are two stories involving sexting that ended with tragic results. These girls were called vulgar names in person and online. Additionally, they were excluded and ostracized by other students.
Experience the end of friendships. Many times, when a sexual image becomes public, friendships will dissolve. This can leave the person in the photos feeling betrayed and alone. Because peer pressure is a powerful force, friends often distance themselves from the person being targeted because they fear they also will be bullied.
Experience guilt and shame. Having personal and private images shared with a mass audience can cause immense guilt and shame. As a result, kids who participate in sexting often regret having done so. It also impacts self-esteem leaving them feeling vulnerable and exposed.
Experience objectification. Girls who take nude pictures and then send them to a boyfriend, are encouraging others to objectify them. This also opens them up to possibility of victimization and sexual assault because others make assumptions about them based on their willingness to take and distribute the pictures.
Experience feelings of hopelessness. As bullying, ridicule and embarrassment escalate around the sexting, teens can start to feel hopeless and become depressed. They also may contemplate suicide.
Kids often don’t realize that sexting a boyfriend or girlfriend is not a harmless act. Instead, they can face serious legal ramifications. Here are some important details regarding the legal consequences of sexting.
Risk receiving criminal charges for child pornography. Both kids who send the photos and kids who receive the photos can be charged. Those who send the photos may be charged with distributing child pornography in some states. And those who receive the photos may be charged with receiving child pornography. If they distribute the photos to friends, then they also may face charges for distributing child pornography.
Risk having to register as a sex offender. Aside from possible jail time and probation if convicted of charges related to child pornography, teens that sext also run the risk of having to register as a sex offender. Additionally, this label is burdensome for young people because of the stigmas attached and the reporting required. And, it is something that is likely to follow them for the rest of their lives.
Risk exposing parents to legal consequences. For instance, if parents know that their child is sexting and do nothing to end it, they may be charged with contributing to the delinquency of a minor. The parents also can be subject to a civil suit if the victim’s parents choose to sue.
Risk having to enter foster care or being removed from the home. If parents know about the sexting and do nothing to end it, then they may be subject to an investigation by Child Protective Services. Sometimes these investigations result in a child being removed from the home.